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IMG_1284 Vera Wong’s Unsolicited Advice to Murderers
Jesse Q. Sutanto
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A lonely shopkeeper takes it upon herself to solve a murder in the most peculiar way in this captivating mystery by Jesse Q. Sutanto, bestselling author of Dial A for Aunties.

Vera Wong is a lonely little old lady—ah, lady of a certain age—who lives above her forgotten tea shop in the middle of San Francisco’s Chinatown. Despite living alone, Vera is not needy, oh no. She likes nothing more than sipping on a good cup of Wulong and doing some healthy detective work on the Internet about what her Gen-Z son is up to.

Then one morning, Vera trudges downstairs to find a curious thing—a dead man in the middle of her tea shop. In his outstretched hand, a flash drive. Vera doesn’t know what comes over her, but after calling the cops like any good citizen would, she sort of . . . swipes the flash drive from the body and tucks it safely into the pocket of her apron. Why? Because Vera is sure she would do a better job than the police possibly could, because nobody sniffs out a wrongdoing quite like a suspicious Chinese mother with time on her hands. Vera knows the killer will be back for the flash drive; all she has to do is watch the increasing number of customers at her shop and figure out which one among them is the killer.

What Vera does not expect is to form friendships with her customers and start to care for each and every one of them. As a protective mother hen, will she end up having to give one of her newfound chicks to the police?

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Random Audiobook listen.

The narrator had a nice voice, very pleasant reading, and also had impressive accents.

This was a thoroughly enjoyable listen. There were of course, many eye-rolling points, but this managed to be an amateur sleuthing book WITHOUT the usual cliches. Or there were some cliches, but weren’t annoying overt.

Tongue-in-cheek way though, I would say, I could flip a table if I hear “Vera Wang’s World Famous Tea House” one more time LOL. That name is way too long.

This is basically a grandma deciding to go sleuthing and along the way cooking up a storm (heck, I even felt hungry hearing all those dishes). Hiccups along the way, of course, but everything works out.

My only “nuh-uh” moments were actually in some parts where in one sentence “something happened weeks ago” but then in the next line it was “three days ago”.

I do recommend this audiobook.

Book: Convenience Store Woman

Sep. 2nd, 2025 11:37 pm
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IMG_1281 Convenience Store Woman
Sayaka Morata, Ginny Tapley Takemori (Translator)
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The English-language debut of one of Japan's most talented contemporary writers, selling over 650,000 copies there, Convenience Store Woman is the heartwarming and surprising story of thirty-six-year-old Tokyo resident Keiko Furukura.

Keiko has never fit in, neither in her family, nor in school, but when at the age of eighteen she begins working at the Hiiromachi branch of “Smile Mart,” she finds peace and purpose in her life. In the store, unlike anywhere else, she understands the rules of social interaction―many are laid out line by line in the store’s manual―and she does her best to copy the dress, mannerisms, and speech of her colleagues, playing the part of a “normal” person excellently, more or less. Keiko is very happy, but the people close to her, from her family to her coworkers, increasingly pressure her to find a husband, and to start a proper career, prompting her to take desperate action…

A brilliant depiction of a world hidden from view, Convenience Store Woman is an ironic and sharp-eyed look at contemporary work culture and the pressures we all feel to conform, as well as a charming and completely fresh portrait of an unforgettable heroine.

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It sounds like the main character was simply on the spectrum and needed a very structured way of life to handle day-to-day things.

And it also sounds very Japanese-que (or Asian-esque) for the parents and people around her to be like “you gotta be cured!” Meaning for her to “conform with the norm!”

BS talk from the guy, so much BS I’d just shush him away for being sooooooooo disrespectful.

Code deploy happening shortly

Aug. 31st, 2025 07:37 pm
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Per the [site community profile] dw_news post regarding the MS/TN blocks, we are doing a small code push shortly in order to get the code live. As per usual, please let us know if you see anything wonky.

There is some code cleanup we've been doing that is going out with this push but I don't think there is any new/reworked functionality, so it should be pretty invisible if all goes well.

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A reminder to everyone that starting tomorrow, we are being forced to block access to any IP address that geolocates to the state of Mississippi for legal reasons while we and Netchoice continue fighting the law in court. People whose IP addresses geolocate to Mississippi will only be able to access a page that explains the issue and lets them know that we'll be back to offer them service as soon as the legal risk to us is less existential.

The block page will include the apology but I'll repeat it here: we don't do geolocation ourselves, so we're limited to the geolocation ability of our network provider. Our anti-spam geolocation blocks have shown us that their geolocation database has a number of mistakes in it. If one of your friends who doesn't live in Mississippi gets the block message, there is nothing we can do on our end to adjust the block, because we don't control it. The only way to fix a mistaken block is to change your IP address to one that doesn't register as being in Mississippi, either by disconnecting your internet connection and reconnecting it (if you don't have a static IP address) or using a VPN.

In related news, the judge in our challenge to Tennessee's social media age verification, parental consent, and parental surveillance law (which we are also part of the fight against!) ruled last month that we had not met the threshold for a temporary injunction preventing the state from enforcing the law while the court case proceeds.

The Tennesee law is less onerous than the Mississippi law and the fines for violating it are slightly less ruinous (slightly), but it's still a risk to us. While the fight goes on, we've decided to prevent any new account signups from anyone under 18 in Tennessee to protect ourselves against risk. We do not need to block access from the whole state: this only applies to new account creation.

Because we don't do any geolocation on our users and our network provider's geolocation services only apply to blocking access to the site entirely, the way we're implementing this is a new mandatory question on the account creation form asking if you live in Tennessee. If you do, you'll be unable to register an account if you're under 18, not just the under 13 restriction mandated by COPPA. Like the restrictions on the state of Mississippi, we absolutely hate having to do this, we're sorry, and we hope we'll be able to undo it as soon as possible.

Finally, I'd like to thank every one of you who's commented with a message of support for this fight or who's bought paid time to help keep us running. The fact we're entirely user-supported and you all genuinely understand why this fight is so important for everyone is a huge part of why we can continue to do this work. I've also sent a lot of your comments to the lawyers who are fighting the actual battles in court, and they find your wholehearted support just as encouraging and motivating as I do. Thank you all once again for being the best users any social media site could ever hope for. You make me proud and even more determined to yell at state attorneys general on your behalf.

I still feel sick-ish

Aug. 31st, 2025 05:49 pm
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I don't know. I don't feel like coughing much now, but I keep feeling like I'm sweating (not exercise sweat, just sweating as if cold-sweating) and I feel this... heat between my eyes, that I always equate to having a fever when I feel this way. But, I'm not sick. So I dunno.

Double session of Yoga today was brutal. Stick Yoga first, then Wall Rope Yoga. I managed a new pose today! Basically, it's back against the wall, one foot in both the ropes hope, hands gripping on the high rope, then lift the other leg up and form a "V" in mid air (not really, back is agains the wall). I was never able to do that.

Wonder if the instructor takes me as a weird person, seems like I'm the only one that answers him LOL. When doing the right leg, he was like "come on, leg up" and I said "impossible" LOL. But after that sequence and we changed sides to do the other leg, I gave it my all and tried.

Another pose was leg up against the wall and pressing down, so it's like doing the splits on the wall? He kept saying, "come on, still have space, jump a bit and stretch your leg" and I was all like "are you sure?" Guy couldn't keep a straight face LOL.

Let it be known, I've always known I was stiff. Even as a kid, when people say "kids are more flexible", I was never able to do the split, I was never able to do the back bend. Even the thing where one arm reaches up-back and down, and the other down-back and up and then clasp your hands on your back? Never been able to do that, even as a kid. But I'm trying.

While the wall rope yoga was difficult was the poses and such, I sweated so much with Stick Yoga, it was tough. But I persevered!

Recently...

Aug. 31st, 2025 12:57 am
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My assistant went on holiday and brought back this bookmark/sticker/don't know what it is yet as it's not in my hands yet. This is actually absolutely delightful. It's so punny. It's funny and witty! Simply by meaning is "My Boss is at his wit's end (dealing with me)". It also looks like a Taoist talisman... thing.... (if you watched Sailor Moon before, it's what Sailor Mars uses sometimes) because the key word for "hopeless to deal with" sounds the same as the name for the talisman thingamajig.
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So today is the last day of August, and the ceramics workshop place has... continued to not have someone open the door. The last 2 weeks there was another class going on so an instructor had the door opened. I was hoping the door would be opened today, but no dice.

Again I went to the office proper one level up, no one there. So I was like, what the heck, I'll use the hidden key. I know of the key but I try not to use it. But when I was cleaning up by the end of my session, one of the staff came in. She didn't ask how I got in, I didn't say much, just greeted her a hello. Wonder if they'll take the key away or not.

Here's me shaking a bottle of underglaze because it's a concentrate and I added water to it so that I can use it for the airbrush.
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Since I've already amassed quite an army and I didn't feel like painting them, I've started on a new project, but I intend to only make 1 piece of it for now.
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I saw on IG someone adding a teddy bear on a plate and then painting the comfortor colourfully, so I decided to do something similar. I think I made the dog too big, but... I dunno, we'll see how it comes out. I also plan to paint the comfortor as if it's a quilt? So I'll paint it all in squares... and use up my other glaze colours. Making all those cats and dogs, I'm low on black/brown/grey/white/orange, but am totally still full of blue/pink/purple/red
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My bestie didn't come today, and I wasn't sure what to do for lunch and after, so I went ahead to Wynn Palace as I heard there's a Japanese Omakase place with a good deal on a lunch omakase set. And yes, this is the toilet. How grand LOL.
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The set came with 8 piece sushi, dessert, miso, and some appetizer, but since stuff came piece by piece, I couldn't take a photo of the spread. Managed to finish that book during lunch... FINALLY!
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My bestie was raving about this movie, but I think it's just because she's a fan of the main character. She's going to watch tomorrow, but I don't have time tomorrow, so figure I'd just watch it today. It was... very Japanese (LOL what am I saying). Basically, the guy got into a corridor loop and if he saw any anomaly then he should turn back, and if there's no anomaly then he can go on (looping again and again on a pre-set corridor). By the end i was like, "just turn back" when there was an obvious anomaly. It actually turned absurd in 2 of the loops.
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And at the very end, it's again... very Japanese LOL. They showed the beginning of an action, but not the actual action, so you don't really know what the main character did at the very end.

Book: The Courage to be Disliked

Aug. 30th, 2025 11:54 pm
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couragedisliked The Courage to be Disliked: How to Free Yourself, Change your Life and Achieve Real Happiness
Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga
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The Japanese phenomenon that teaches us the simple yet profound lessons required to liberate our real selves and find lasting happiness.

The Courage to Be Disliked shows you how to unlock the power within yourself to become your best and truest self, change your future and find lasting happiness. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th-century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, the authors explain how we are all free to determine our own future free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It’s a philosophy that’s profoundly liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves.

The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to Be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you.

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Ugh, this book took... FOREVER for me to read. I was expecting this to be a non-fiction dry text, honestly, I was totally prepared for that, and had my brain formatted to adapt to that. But then, the contents are being presented as if in a fiction book, a young man conversing with a philosopher.

It was even dryer than a non-fiction, and the young man was absolutely grating. There was a part where the young man got all mad and went on a rant, but it was a child style rant, absolutely refusing to listen. But then, by the end of the book, he's totally done a 180 and just meekly accepted.

As for the actual contents on Adlerian teachings, I wouldn't be so pompous as to say "I knew it already" but that I've unknowingly been adapting to some viewpoints along those lines for a while. Or, to say it absolutely crudely, I have no more f*cks to give and as long as I am not hurting people and I can live with a clear conscience on my actions and decisions, then who cares what others think of me.

That ruddy cat

Aug. 27th, 2025 11:38 pm
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Can you see what this cat does? This cat is a monster. She actually punctured (cumulative in her lifetime) 3 cans of fizzy drink. She's just over 1 year old haha.

We love her all the same LOL

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I'll start with the tl;dr summary to make sure everyone sees it and then explain further: As of September 1, we will temporarily be forced to block access to Dreamwidth from all IP addresses that geolocate to Mississippi for legal reasons. This block will need to continue until we either win the legal case entirely, or the district court issues another injunction preventing Mississippi from enforcing their social media age verification and parental consent law against us.

Mississippi residents, we are so, so sorry. We really don't want to do this, but the legal fight we and Netchoice have been fighting for you had a temporary setback last week. We genuinely and honestly believe that we're going to win it in the end, but the Fifth Circuit appellate court said that the district judge was wrong to issue the preliminary injunction back in June that would have maintained the status quo and prevented the state from enforcing the law requiring any social media website (which is very broadly defined, and which we definitely qualify as) to deanonymize and age-verify all users and obtain parental permission from the parent of anyone under 18 who wants to open an account.

Netchoice took that appellate ruling up to the Supreme Court, who declined to overrule the Fifth Circuit with no explanation -- except for Justice Kavanaugh agreeing that we are likely to win the fight in the end, but saying that it's no big deal to let the state enforce the law in the meantime.

Needless to say, it's a big deal to let the state enforce the law in the meantime. The Mississippi law is a breathtaking state overreach: it forces us to verify the identity and age of every person who accesses Dreamwidth from the state of Mississippi and determine who's under the age of 18 by collecting identity documents, to save that highly personal and sensitive information, and then to obtain a permission slip from those users' parents to allow them to finish creating an account. It also forces us to change our moderation policies and stop anyone under 18 from accessing a wide variety of legal and beneficial speech because the state of Mississippi doesn't like it -- which, given the way Dreamwidth works, would mean blocking people from talking about those things at all. (And if you think you know exactly what kind of content the state of Mississippi doesn't like, you're absolutely right.)

Needless to say, we don't want to do that, either. Even if we wanted to, though, we can't: the resources it would take for us to build the systems that would let us do it are well beyond our capacity. You can read the sworn declaration I provided to the court for some examples of how unworkable these requirements are in practice. (That isn't even everything! The lawyers gave me a page limit!)

Unfortunately, the penalties for failing to comply with the Mississippi law are incredibly steep: fines of $10,000 per user from Mississippi who we don't have identity documents verifying age for, per incident -- which means every time someone from Mississippi loaded Dreamwidth, we'd potentially owe Mississippi $10,000. Even a single $10,000 fine would be rough for us, but the per-user, per-incident nature of the actual fine structure is an existential threat. And because we're part of the organization suing Mississippi over it, and were explicitly named in the now-overturned preliminary injunction, we think the risk of the state deciding to engage in retaliatory prosecution while the full legal challenge continues to work its way through the courts is a lot higher than we're comfortable with. Mississippi has been itching to issue those fines for a while, and while normally we wouldn't worry much because we're a small and obscure site, the fact that we've been yelling at them in court about the law being unconstitutional means the chance of them lumping us in with the big social media giants and trying to fine us is just too high for us to want to risk it. (The excellent lawyers we've been working with are Netchoice's lawyers, not ours!)

All of this means we've made the extremely painful decision that our only possible option for the time being is to block Mississippi IP addresses from accessing Dreamwidth, until we win the case. (And I repeat: I am absolutely incredibly confident we'll win the case. And apparently Justice Kavanaugh agrees!) I repeat: I am so, so sorry. This is the last thing we wanted to do, and I've been fighting my ass off for the last three years to prevent it. But, as everyone who follows the legal system knows, the Fifth Circuit is gonna do what it's gonna do, whether or not what they want to do has any relationship to the actual law.

We don't collect geolocation information ourselves, and we have no idea which of our users are residents of Mississippi. (We also don't want to know that, unless you choose to tell us.) Because of that, and because access to highly accurate geolocation databases is extremely expensive, our only option is to use our network provider's geolocation-based blocking to prevent connections from IP addresses they identify as being from Mississippi from even reaching Dreamwidth in the first place. I have no idea how accurate their geolocation is, and it's possible that some people not in Mississippi might also be affected by this block. (The inaccuracy of geolocation is only, like, the 27th most important reason on the list of "why this law is practically impossible for any site to comply with, much less a tiny site like us".)

If your IP address is identified as coming from Mississippi, beginning on September 1, you'll see a shorter, simpler version of this message and be unable to proceed to the site itself. If you would otherwise be affected, but you have a VPN or proxy service that masks your IP address and changes where your connection appears to come from, you won't get the block message, and you can keep using Dreamwidth the way you usually would.

On a completely unrelated note while I have you all here, have I mentioned lately that I really like ProtonVPN's service, privacy practices, and pricing? They also have a free tier available that, although limited to one device, has no ads or data caps and doesn't log your activity, unlike most of the free VPN services out there. VPNs are an excellent privacy and security tool that every user of the internet should be familiar with! We aren't affiliated with Proton and we don't get any kickbacks if you sign up with them, but I'm a satisfied customer and I wanted to take this chance to let you know that.

Again, we're so incredibly sorry to have to make this announcement, and I personally promise you that I will continue to fight this law, and all of the others like it that various states are passing, with every inch of the New Jersey-bred stubborn fightiness you've come to know and love over the last 16 years. The instant we think it's less legally risky for us to allow connections from Mississippi IP addresses, we'll undo the block and let you know.

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